DO YOU TRACK YOUR CYCLE?
Throughout the years as I have opened to the Divine Feminine, I have developed a strong relationship with my own body’s connection with the Moon. I have charted and followed my own cycle, noting the moon phase, (Dark, New, Waxing, Full and Waning), and the sign the moon is in when I bleed. I look to the moon to understand my own emotions, and my body’s responses to the different phases. This practice has shown me which signs and phases contribute to energy levels, times of sensitivity emotionally, when I am most likely to feel fiery and combative, and at which points I need to turn into myself, slowing down, being gentle. I try to plan everything from circles to social events, to when I will spend time reading or writing around my cycle and the moon.
I have developed a respect for menstruation. Honoring our bleed, is one of the most ancient practices. In a world where people who bleed are taught that our bodies are gross, that bleeding is an embarrassment, that we should “Just Do It”, even when we are exhausted, or in pain, I am called to respect the magick of menstruation.
ONCE UPON A TIME...
…When the moon became dark, our ancestors would quiet, and come together, bleeding in unison, singing to The Earth Mother, the first goddess we recognized. Our ancestors sang and prayed and rested with each other, taking this time to be gentle and soft, to feel their feelings, share the stories of their mother’s and grandmothers, passing these stories down the generations. With the rise of Capitalism and the patriarchy, the toxic masculine began to fear the power of the Divine Feminine. Villainizing the female body, turning it into a receptacle for their pleasure, shaming the feminine for sexuality, for wanting pleasure, for owning their bodies. Thus the broken concept of virginity was born. Rather than virginity being a woman who owned her body, who had sex for pleasure, and did not choose comitted partnership, the word was twisted to refer to a woman who was “pure”. Sexuality in it’s most sacred form is in fact the purest, the most powerful manifestation practice, alas it has been considered sinful. Purity culture has twisted sexuality, and menstruation causing the feminine to avoid their own bodies, their own blood, to mask our own truth, using medications and tampons to plug our potent blood.
In 2015 I stopped using tampons and switched to absorbent period protection panties. The feeling of free bleeding was uncomfortable at first, I had never experienced that feeling. I loved how feminine and even sexy I felt wearing attractive undies while I bled. Gone were the days that I felt that telltale wet slap of a tampon string on my thigh. Gone were the days that I had to pull a dry tampon from my body. Gone were the days when I leaked and ruined my light colored panties. Gone were the days where I woke up covered in my own blood, sleepily removing sheets. Gone were the days I slept with a towel under me, “just in case”.
I was hard pressed to find affordable, attractive period protection panties, and was filled with relief when I finally discovered a brand that I could endorse. When I finally did, it was just in time, as my teenage daughter’s cycle began. The material is soft, made of breathable bamboo, and it’s not thick or awkward. It doesn’t make any noise when you move, and forms comfortably to the body. We chose Bambody, a small company based out of Australia, owned by a wonderful woman who saw the atrocious prices for sustainable period protection, and took it into her own hands to design flattering effective options for people of all sizes. I reached out after testing out several other brands, and was thrilled to discover the incredible heart behind Bambody.